By J. L. Starkey
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”– Leo Tolstoy, Author/Beekeeper
“You have to see this,” I said to my husband. “This is Jesse Rowe’s estate inventory . Four hundred pounds of pork?”
“I guess the man really liked bacon, huh?” my husband said with a laugh.
“And look at this,” I continued. “He had four colonies of bees and eight empty hives. My third-great-grandfather liked bees? How did that happen?”
“Are you sure he was actually related to you?” my husband asked.
He had a good reason for his skepticism. You see, no one in my family likes bees. Seriously…not one person.
If there is a “not bothered by buzzing insects” gene, then several of us were born without it.
My aversion to bees is so extreme that it’s almost comical. I don’t run very well, for reasons discussed in a post about hurricane, a cemetery, and a bit of New Orleans magic. But if chased by a bee, I would hurdle a car like Flo-Jo to get away from that horrible buzzing.
My sisters and several other family members share this strange aversion to bees, wasps, and hornets. We all figured it was the family curse. And it was, until Jesse Bascom Rowe came along.
Just who was this third-great-grandfather of mine? He raised my great-great-grandfather, the unforgettable Morris B., so he had to be stubborn, opinionated, and fearless. But why did he start his life over at age 63? What made him decide to sell everything in Ohio so that he could start from scratch in Missouri?
Was there a story hiding in those beehives?
Fighting the Good Fight
Born on 15 December 1804 in Louisa County, Virginia, Jesse Bascom Rowe was destined to follow in his ancestors’ footsteps . After all, farming was what the Rowe men did, and Jesse probably never questioned that fact .
By the 1820’s, Jesse’s family was farming in Fayette County, Ohio . In 1825, he married Delaware native Sarah Morris, and the newlyweds began improving the land Jesse had inherited from his grandmother .
Over the next three decades, Jesse and Sarah would raise ten children on their Fayette County farm . The years were good to them, and Jesse was happy to have his children nearby as he cultivated the land he loved.
But as the country entered the Civil War, happiness was replaced by tragedy, grief, and loneliness.
In 1861, Jesse’s son Daniel died of consumption at age 26 . Just ten months later, his daughter Alice Rowe Adams passed away at age 23, leaving her husband Peter to raise their infant daughter alone .
Jesse and Sarah found a way to move forward in their grief, and surrounded by his family, Jesse continued to fight the good fight. But his losses continued, and his grief seemed to have no end.
Finishing the Course…Or Maybe Not
The Civil War left few families untouched, and the Rowes were no exception. Four of Jesse’s sons were eligible to serve, and all four answered the call of duty . Jesse’s son-in-law Peter Adams also enlisted, but he would not return home. Tragically, Peter was killed in action, leaving his daughter orphaned and in the care of her grandparents .
Grief was a constant companion during those years, and for the Rowe family, the mourning never ended. In 1863, Jesse’s father James passed away. Just two years later, his mother Elizabeth died shortly after the end of the war .
The Union was united again, but for Jesse, the victory was bittersweet. He was one of the lucky ones, wasn’t he? After all, his sons all returned home when the war was over.
But the home they returned to was not the same as the one they left. It was now forever changed – by grief.
Indeed, it seemed that grief would never leave the Rowe’s Fayette County home. In November 1867, Jesse’s wife Sarah passed away . Just five months later, he faced yet another tragedy when his daughter Mary Catherine died at age 23 .
What had happened to his charmed life? Jesse’s parents and his wife were gone. He had buried three children and a son-in-law. And in the midst of it all, his children were leaving home. One by one, they packed up and left Ohio, hoping to make a fresh start in Missouri.
At age 63, Jesse found himself at a crossroads. The life he once had was over. Was there anything left for him? Where was he supposed to go now?
I wonder what Jesse said as he considered his options. It’s purely conjecture, but I suspect that he thought things through, paused, and then simply said: “Sell it. Sell it all. I’m done here.”
Finishing the Course…Again
Change was coming, and it was coming soon. The ad that ran in February 1868 was proof of that fact . Jesse sold his personal property just four days after he sold his Fayette County farm . The signs were all around him. It was time to move on.
What were his thoughts as he prepared to start a new life? Did he play it cool as he accepted payment (in gold!) for his farm, stored that gold securely in his belt, packed his belongings, and said farewell to Ohio forever? Did he wipe away a tear as he looked back one final time?
He may have done just that. But I hope that he also said a prayer, looked to the west, and allowed himself to feel a long-absent emotion: hope.
Keeping the Faith
In April 1868 Jesse Rowe put down roots in the show-me state. His new home, which was situated on 670 acres in Jackson County, commanded an asking price of almost $17,000, an amount equal to about $300,000 today .
Did Jesse make the right decision? Would he find a new meaning and purpose in his life?
He would, and quickly.
Jesse wasn’t getting any younger, and he had big plans.
In spring of 1869, he began selling his Jackson County land. Maybe he was thinking of his grandparents as he outlined the terms of the sale, or maybe he just wanted to keep his family together. Regardless of his reasoning, Jesse made sure that his children wouldn’t find a better land price anywhere else in the world.
The sales price was identical for each of the Rowe children, and that price was just one dollar .
“Well,” the children may have said, “you know dad. He always was happiest with all of us kids nearby. It’s all he ever wished for.”
In the final years of his new life, Jesse finally got his wish…again.
Jesse Rowe died on 30 January 1881. He left no will, perhaps knowing that his children would settle his estate according to his wishes.
Over the years, Jesse’s property changed hands several times, and eventually passed out of the family entirely. Today, it is valued at over twenty-five million dollars.
But of course the Rowe children did not know that as they settled Jesse’s estate. They only knew that their father had left a legacy for each one of them.
Still, the question remained: How could they honor their father’s legacy?
For Moses Truman Rowe, the answer was easy.
He knew that his father was never one to miss an opportunity. He also knew that he was a lot like his father, and that he could easily afford a seven-dollar startup fee.
His decision made, Moses headed to the late residence of Jesse Rowe on 9 May 1881. He had to see a man about some beehives.
Dad would have wanted it that way.
I have fought a good fight,
I have finished my course,
I have kept the faith.– 2 Timothy 4:7, KJV
Next week: Who was the Bee Man of Jackson County?
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- For more information on the Rowe family’s history in Virginia, see “The Rowe Saga” at http://lilliespond.blogspot.com/.
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