The Happiness Now

By J. L. Starkey

Another Beautiful Sunrise from Monte Sano,
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“What I am trying to say is that the pain then is part of the happiness now. That’s the deal.”

– C. S. Lewis

This week’s 52 Ancestors post was supposed to be easy. The prompt was “at worship,” and I planned to write about my fifth-great-grandfather, Jesse Rowe. After all, he was the father of Methodism in Fayette County, Ohio [1]. Uncle Morris had written about Jesse’s life, and I was going to expand on his findings. It was such an easy choice!

Not so fast.

As I was reviewing the details of Jesse’s life, my attention was drawn to his youngest son, my fifth-great-uncle, Reverend James Rowe.

And my “easy” writing week ended right there.


The Minister’s Son and the Reporter’s Daughter

Reverend James Rowe, from the Huntsville Times

James Rowe was born in Louisa County, Virginia, on 20 Oct 1797, to Jesse and Mary Jane (Farris) Rowe [2]. He entered the ministry in his early twenties, and by December 1825, he had accepted a position on the Huntsville, Alabama, circuit. Excited about what the future held, James said goodbye to his family and friends and began the journey to Alabama, stopping first in Cincinnati, Ohio.

It was a stop that would change his life.

In December 1825, Malinda Poff was attending school in Cincinnati and had dreams of becoming a teacher. James was smitten from the first time he saw Malinda, and would later describe that first meeting as “the most wonderful memory” of his life [3].

James continued on to Alabama, now with some additional motivation to succeed in his new position. He had met the love of his life, and he wanted her by his side. He especially wanted to show her an area near Huntsville called Monte Sano. With its higher elevation and purported healing waters, it would be good for Malinda’s health, as she was troubled by rheumatism [4]. Then, too, Malinda had always dreamed of living in the south; Huntsville, Alabama seemed to offer a promising future to the couple.

As I researched the life of James, I marveled at his dedication to not only his career, but to Malinda’s as well. This was the 1820’s, and most women had very few choices in life. As I read about how James encouraged and supported Malinda as she pursued her goals, I realized that he was a man ahead of his time!


Love and Marriage

In 1828, the stars aligned for the young minister and his true love. James was gaining popularity in the church; even more encouraging, however, was the news that the Huntsville Female Academy needed to hire a new teacher. Administrators sought a woman with a skill set similar to Malinda’s, and estimated that the salary could be as much as $700 per year, an amount equal to about $19,000 in 2019 terms.

Yes, it was time for James to return to Cincinnati…there was a wedding that needed planning!

James and Malinda were married in late 1828, and Malinda made the move to Alabama immediately. Reverend and Mrs. Rowe were ideally suited to one another, and quickly became a popular couple in the Huntsville area. Malinda found satisfaction in her new teaching position at the Academy, and life was just about perfect for the newlyweds [5].

But the first months in Huntsville caused Malinda’s rheumatism to return with a vengeance. Finally, James suggested a vacation in nearby Monte Sano. Perhaps the fresh air and healing waters up on the mountain would provide some relief.

Reverend Rowe was correct in his prediction, and as he watched Malinda’s health improve, he sensed that his priorities were changing. Yes, his career was important, but now, Malinda’s health took precedence over other things. James and Malinda had been called to two very different careers, but they ultimately had the same goal: they wanted to help people. Could James continue on his path, albeit on a different branch?

He decided that he could do just that.

In 1829, James made the shocking decision to put his career on hold. Together, he and Malinda opened the Monte Sano Female Academy. Using funds he had saved during his years working as a minster, James financed the building of the new school. It was a win-win situation for the young couple. They could live in Monte Sano, an area that was good for Malinda’s health, and Malinda could continue teaching, an occupation that she dearly loved [6].

The Monte Sano Female Academy opens its doors [The Democrat, 5 Jan 1830]

Monte Sano Female Academy opened in February 1830 and quickly established an excellent reputation. The school was focused on educating young women in areas as diverse as English, foreign languages, and art. The beautiful surroundings, combined with the Christian influence brought by Reverend Rowe, made it an appealing higher education option for many women.

Yes, times were good, and in the midst of it all, James and Malinda had yet another blessing to celebrate. In 1830, Malinda gave birth to her first child, a son named Andrew Jackson. Two years later, the family would welcome their second son, James Henry Bascom [7].

By the time of James Henry’s birth, the Academy had become extremely successful, and James created a pamphlet to advertise its offerings and benefits. It was a sort of precursor to the college catalogs we see today. The prices and some of the courses, however, were nothing like we would see in 2019 [8]!

Tuition and fees, from The Democrat, 5 Jan 1830. In 1832, James created a pamphlet to advertise the school.

Yes, life was good. James had “sacrificed” a promising career for the health of his wife, and now he was seeing that it had been no sacrifice at all. They had gambled…and won.


The Pain He Felt

In his book A Grief Observed, C. S. Lewis wrote, “The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before.” In the final weeks of 1833, James would learn all too quickly about that pain.

In 1833, Malinda’s health took a turn for the worse, and she declined rapidly. This time, all of the healing water and fresh air in the world would not help her. James knew that death was inevitable, and that there was nothing left to do but pray.

Malinda died on 8 November 1833, leaving her students without a teacher, her husband without a soulmate, and her sons without a mother. She was buried the next day “… in a small plot marked off at the west of the school…for Malinda’s dying request had been that she be buried on the mountain.”

Later, the bitterly sad funeral would be described in heartbreaking detail:

A procession…moved slowly to the grave. In the front came the officiating minister. Behind him followed the corpse borne by five men, then the husband with his two little sons, one in his arms, the other toddling along at his side. This was the climax to The Rev. James Rowe’s interest in…Monte Sano. He had been brought to the mountain by the love of a woman. That woman was gone. What more was left for him there?”

– Pat Jones, “Historic Romance of Monte Sano”

James would have to go on living, but what of the school? Without Malinda, there was no school. In his grief, Reverend Rowe closed the Academy at the end of the term and left Monte Sano with the understanding that someday, he would be buried on the mountain, next to his beloved Malinda [9].

Sadly, that final wish would not be granted.


A Love Story Memorialized

Historic Marker at Monte Sano State Park (Find-A-Grave contributor S. L. Locke)

James Rowe died in 1868 in Limestone County, Alabama. Tragically (perhaps due to transportation issues), he was not buried next to Malinda in Monte Sano, but was instead laid to rest in Athens City Cemetery in Limestone County [10].

Today, Monte Sano State Park is a popular recreation area in Madison County, Alabama. Visitors come to enjoy the clean air and beautiful scenery, but most of them probably do not know the rest of the story behind that historic marker in the park. Curious hikers may find the lone grave marker of Malinda Rowe and wonder why there is an identical stone next to it with no name or dates.

Does the lack of a name on that second stone really matter, though? As C. S. Lewis remarked in A Grief Observed, “You can’t see anything properly while your eyes are blurred with tears.”

Malinda’s grave marker stands next to an identical (but blank) marker. [Find-A-Grave contributor S. L. Locke[

Citations

  1. “Early Fayette County Settlers,” Washington C.H. Record-Herald, Washington Court House, Ohio, p. 57, col. 4.
  2. Rowe, Morris. “The Rowe Saga,” copy in possession of author.
  3. Jones, Pat, “History Romance of Monte Sano Installment No. 2,” Huntsville Times, Huntsville, Alabama, 1 Apr 1934, p. 4, col. 4-7. Retrieved from genealogybank.com.
  4. Malinda is thought to have suffered from rheumatoid arthritis, according to her descendants. The Rowe family papers, which can be accessed at the Alabama State Archives, include letters and documents written by James and Malinda Rowe.
  5. Ibid
  6. Jones, Pat, “History Romance of Monte Sano Installment No. 3,” Huntsville Times, Huntsville, Alabama, 8 Apr 1934, p. 4, col. 4-6. Retrieved from genealogybank.com.
  7. Ibid
  8. “New Female Academy,” The Democrat, Huntsville, Alabama, 15 Jan 1830, p. 1, col. 4. Retrieved from newspapers.com.
  9. Jones, Pat, “History Romance of Monte Sano Installment No. 4,” Huntsville Times, Huntsville, Alabama, 15 Apr 1934, p. 4, col. 4-7. Retrieved from genealogybank.com.
  10. Find-A-Grave memorial for James Rowe. Ancestry.com. U.S., Find A Grave Index, 1600s-Current [database on-line]. Provo, UT, USA: Ancestry.com Operations, Inc., 2012.

3 thoughts on “The Happiness Now

  1. What a sweet story you have discovered and told so well. I was not expecting Malinda’s death like that. James Rowe seems like such a wonderful husband.

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  2. Laura Mattingly May 1, 2019 — 7:13 pm

    Yes, this story was well worth a diversion from your plan. Incredible and so bittersweet. Loved it.

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  3. Thanks for putting on the breaks, backing up and taking the time to tell James and Malinda Rowe story. The C. S. Lewis quote is perfect.

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